The power to improve flows when you embrace a growth mindset. However, there is an unhealthy relationship that we tend to keep with a fixed mindset. Let me explain.
Many of us find it easier to beat ourselves up when we falter while working on a habit we are trying to cultivate or replace. For instance, in 2021, I started working on applying a piece of new knowledge about dental care. Before then, I'd brush and rinse with water and I noticed my breath would go stale when I didn't talk much. However, I learned that when you don't rinse off with water, it extends the time it takes for your breath to go stale. I began practising and I was doing well for a few weeks until my autopilot kicked in and I found myself rinsing again before I remembered that I was trying to build a new habit.
๐๐ฌ๐ค ๐ฅ๐ค๐จ๐จ๐๐๐ก๐ ๐ง๐๐จ๐ฅ๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐จ ๐๐ง๐ค๐ข ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฅ๐ค๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ช๐ก๐ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฃ:
๐ ๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ต ๐ฎ๐บ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐จ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ ๐ถ๐ฑ, ๐ต๐ฆ๐ญ๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฎ๐บ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต'๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ช๐ฏ๐ต. ๐๐ญ๐ถ๐ด, ๐ข๐ง๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ, ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ช๐ด ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐'๐ฎ ๐ถ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐บ ๐ฅ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ง๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ข๐บ, ๐ด๐ฐ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐บ ๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ช๐ง ๐ช๐ต'๐ด ๐ด๐ฐ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ณ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ค๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ๐จ๐ฆ?
๐๐๐ข๐ถ๐จ๐ฉ ๐ข๐ต ๐ฎ๐บ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ค๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ฃ๐ณ๐ข๐ต๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ ๐ข๐ค๐ต๐ถ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต ๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ธ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ฃ๐ช๐ต ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฌ๐ด ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฃ๐ข๐ค๐ฌ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ง๐ข๐ถ๐ญ๐ต ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ข๐จ๐ข๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ง๐ข๐ณ ๐ ๐ค๐ข๐ฏ ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ง๐ข๐ถ๐ญ๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ.
My resolve.
I'm glad I chose the latter. What I found is that every time I defaulted and happily went back in, it fortified my new habit. It's been 3yrs now and I almost can't remember what it feels like brushing like I used to.
Is your fixed mindset still robbing you of growth? Please stop it before it stops you! Embrace a growth mindset. Enjoy the fluidity that accompanies the growth mindset and watch yourself grow at the pace meant for you.
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